tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post3824635888806131440..comments2023-11-05T02:43:58.241-05:00Comments on Mimi on the Breach: Living in the villageMimihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10812707312289852258noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post-88462587442777449042007-07-21T21:19:00.000-04:002007-07-21T21:19:00.000-04:00I treat every child equally, and always have. Only...I treat every child equally, and always have. Only once has it caused me grief, and the parents of that particular child are INsane. But I'm all for the village, and have always told children, whether mine or others', to behave!Little Thingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09398537411371530452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post-21783877488360980402007-07-03T12:33:00.000-04:002007-07-03T12:33:00.000-04:00First off, hi. I'm back.Secondly, I am all for the...First off, hi. I'm back.<BR/><BR/>Secondly, I am all for the "village model" of parenting. What I notice more and more these days, though, is its dangerous off-shoot: the passive-agressive playground parenting stance that I absolutely hate. Here is an example. Last summer, Miss M liked to climb up the slide in the park (while I spotted her behind, of course). Because she is such a physically Madhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13416585771017767796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post-46395018528945382732007-07-02T21:38:00.000-04:002007-07-02T21:38:00.000-04:00Tag!Tag!cinnamon gurlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05363288586285868779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post-8336169579103808702007-06-30T09:09:00.000-04:002007-06-30T09:09:00.000-04:00Hey Mimi - I've tagged you for a meme over at my b...Hey Mimi - I've tagged you for a meme over at my blog. I hope you can play! :-)Melanie D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01542313652003967176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post-41395701951118543852007-06-29T14:45:00.000-04:002007-06-29T14:45:00.000-04:00Here via Bub and Pie...great post and responses~I'...Here via Bub and Pie...great post and responses~<BR/><BR/>I've raised my children and am now a grandmother. I've lived long enough to see a change in this very thing.<BR/><BR/>Years ago I thought nothing of correcting a friend or relatives child, even neighborhood children. If you saw a child behaving badly or doing something that could be dangerous you just spoke up and no one had an issue with Poppyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05923400820390663172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post-91872300629132369682007-06-27T17:06:00.000-04:002007-06-27T17:06:00.000-04:00Yep. Discipliner of other people's children here....Yep. Discipliner of other people's children here. I figure if they're not going to do it, something I've seen all too often I'm afraid, and it's directly affecting me or my child (bullying, grabbing, pushing, hair pulling, being verbally mean, etc.), I'm going to step in and say/do something. I've gotten a couple of nasty looks (from parents whose children were literally pounding on a smaller ewe are herehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13339650361453626546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post-70076516837337410882007-06-27T15:35:00.000-04:002007-06-27T15:35:00.000-04:00i've been thinking about this post since yesterday...i've been thinking about this post since yesterday...and reading the comments, considering. because really, it hasn't come up, and i've been wondering why. my child is young enough that i suppose the circumstances haven't arisen...and in our neighbourhood, which is mixed-age low-rent urban and relatively, erm, skiddy, i don't actually see too many other kids. the patrons of the liquor store Bonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14403701620708365171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post-54851001914396004472007-06-27T14:29:00.000-04:002007-06-27T14:29:00.000-04:00Very interesting topic and interesting comment thr...Very interesting topic and interesting comment thread, too.<BR/><BR/>I think that Jen put it well: supervision and care? Acceptable. Discipline? Leave that to me, thanks.<BR/><BR/>If a child is in danger or is likely to hurt someone else, I would say something. But if the parent was around or returning soon, I would stop whatever was happening and leave the discipline up to the parents.<BR/>NotSoSagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04782162947524115936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post-13406710105709264372007-06-26T18:09:00.000-04:002007-06-26T18:09:00.000-04:00oh, this post is ringing all kind of bells for me....oh, this post is ringing all kind of bells for me. I wish I lived in the village -where the shared standards and the trust exist. I find I am in suburban anonymity, where I'm never sure if people agree that kids shouldn't sass their moms or run to the street - I know my friend want that and give it in return - in my neck of the I am looking for a fellow more villagers to trust, to share this Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09390898429089863816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post-83450469145201130022007-06-26T16:42:00.000-04:002007-06-26T16:42:00.000-04:00I have said things when I don't see another parent...I have said things when I don't see another parent intervening, and they have obviously done something wrong. And sometimes I say things without realizing that perhaps it is not my place.<BR/><BR/>I don't actually know how I'd feel if the tables were turned (I'm usually there to intervene when the Boy misbehaves), but I'd like to think that I would appreciate the assistance.Run ANChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06088821030860597465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post-73754544487356148792007-06-26T11:37:00.000-04:002007-06-26T11:37:00.000-04:00I would and I do, but I have a HUGE MOUTH.I would and I do, but I have a HUGE MOUTH.OhTheJoyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05031731198115388411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post-18494200788063902832007-06-26T10:23:00.000-04:002007-06-26T10:23:00.000-04:00Are you kidding? I actually do live in a literal v...Are you kidding? I actually do live in a literal village. And everybody hovers over my kids - from little old ladies snapping at the Boy to "use a civil tone with your mother, young man!" to my friends who shriek at my kids "I'm telling your mom what I see you doing, buddy!". It's an added societal saftey net and it is GOOD for my children to know that they do not live in an anonymous city where Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13953517447164263617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post-8730574096998754832007-06-26T09:23:00.000-04:002007-06-26T09:23:00.000-04:00I think I am having trouble with the idea that it ...I think I am having trouble with the idea that it is full-blown disciple.<BR/><BR/>In our group of friends we have openly said to each other any of us (grown-ups) can help or set straight any of the children. That might mean getting a drink for a child or telling them to stop jumping on the sofa. Not long lectures just basic supervision and care. I am grateful when we are all together that if I Jeniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13100043209000589029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post-32845551329712553202007-06-26T06:58:00.000-04:002007-06-26T06:58:00.000-04:00Not only do we not discipline other people's child...Not only do we not discipline other people's children, but we tend to apply adult standards of politeness to them - if they ask for our chips, we feel obliged to share, if they talk we feel obliged to listen (even when they're interrupting our own conversations). It takes some practice to realize that it's perfectly okay to say, "No I'm eating that hot dog" or "You need to wait until I'm Beahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15957626443087438904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post-63886629942274218632007-06-26T00:34:00.000-04:002007-06-26T00:34:00.000-04:00Of the neighbors we know well, we sort of try to k...Of the neighbors we know well, we sort of try to keep track of all the kids. Tonight I heard a neighbor's husband say "Hey!" I think before he realized it wasn't his son inching towards the street. Then said the child's name and "Get back on the sidewalk!" It worked. It's comfortable. Maybe no yelling, but definitely helping.<BR/><BR/>With my nieces and nephews, at family stuff, we all help out Melanie D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01542313652003967176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post-69237342650945105802007-06-26T00:26:00.000-04:002007-06-26T00:26:00.000-04:00I scold people's children at the library all the t...I scold people's children at the library all the time - but I am careful about how I go about it, and sometimes will address the parent and request that they address a behaviour instead. <BR/><BR/>In terms of non-professional contexts, though, it would have to be someone that I am comfortable with or else the child would have to be about to do something really dumb. REALLY dumb. Because usually, kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33659348.post-27432152362231020152007-06-25T22:13:00.000-04:002007-06-25T22:13:00.000-04:00Tough one for sure.There are certain friends of mi...Tough one for sure.<BR/><BR/>There are certain friends of mine whose kids I have scolded without hesitation, mostly because we discussed it and agreed that it was ok. And friends have scolded my kids, too. So far I have never been offended by it. <BR/><BR/>But I do think I might say something to unknown kids who were being really horrible or doing something dangerous or mean. Actually, come Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04662448292809451387noreply@blogger.com